Increase Self-Esteem By Claiming Your Personal Significance

Have you gone through life feeling not good enough, not pretty enough, or not talented enough, or not smart enough?  Some of us, in one way or another, received regular feedback that these things were true about us.  But it’s not…

 

Now that you are a grown woman, it’s time to take back control of your emotional health.  How do you heal your self-esteem and increase feelings of worthiness?

 

By discovering and claiming what is significant about you!

 

How to Claim Your Personal Significance

 

For many of us, our primary motive behind our actions is significance, or the need to feel special and make a difference in the world.  We want to be seen as unique and get recognition for our gifts and talents.

 

This is understandable, considering the obstacles you faced growing up.  We crave affirmation, validation, praise, and authority.  And why not?  We deserve it!

 

So, in order to increase your personal significance (and thus your self-esteem), do the following:

 

1.  Identify your personal strengths.  What are you naturally good at doing?  When you use your strengths, your levels of confidence, competence, and success improves.  This goes to improve your feelings of self-worth because you are using the very core of your soul.  

 

You can take the Via Character Strengths Test to find out what it is that you are best at doing.  It’s free and very, very eye-opening.  Click here to take it.

 

My top strengths are perspective (wisdom), humor, love of learning, and gratitude.  I use my strengths to bring joy to people’s lives; by giving thanks when I can; to provide sound advice and counsel; and to overcome obstacles and grow as a human being.

 

2.  Learn how to use these strengths in your personal and professional life.  The Via Me Online Character Strengths Test gives you strategies and tips on how to use your strengths in daily life.

 

3.  Build a wall of accomplishments.  If you are a high achiever like me, you probably have lots of plaques, certificates, and trophies that you have put away in your closet, never to be seen again.  Achievements are what build your self-esteem!  

Pull those symbols of success back out and create yourself a success shrine.  Remind yourself that you are successful, and that you have what it takes to create more success in your life.

 

Summary

 

Increase your self-esteem by identifying your personal strengths, learning how to use those strengths each day, and building yourself a wall of accomplishments.  What ways have you used to increase your self-esteem?  Feel free to leave your comments below!

 

 

How to Find Things to Achieve When Your Job Doesn’t Provide That Outlet

If you are a high achiever, you are always thirsty for accomplishment.  More than likely, you want to achieve big things and make a difference in the world.  Well, what if your job doesn’t give you the opportunity to achieve and grow?

After all, achievement is your life line.  Without it, you suffocate.

 

I was experiencing the same problem until I created a list of possible achievements for myself.  Achievement is nothing more that a positive outcome.  And when you spread achievement to other areas of your life, you tend to be more balanced and satisfied.  Here is my list…

  1. Relationships: reaching out more to my friends; telling my parents how I love and appreciate them more; making new friends and focusing on what we have in common versus what’s different about us
  2. Maintaining and building a relationship with God: Without Him I’m nothing.
  3. Loving and affirming myself each day
  4. Building a success identity
  5. Hearing someone say, “You really helped me today”, no matter what it was that I helped them with.
  6. Small successes in handling my finances
  7. Encouraging excellence and self-love among my family and friends

 

What are some ways you achieve things each day?  Leave comments below!

The Key to Major Life Change

What is the key to major life change, such as starting your own business or seeking career advancement within your company?  Where do you begin?  What do you do?  The first thing you need to do is…

 

Build Unshakable Confidence

 

How to build confidence that moves you forward

 

1.  Get to know who you are at your core.  Who you are at your core is what drives you to do anything you do in life, whether you are aware of it or not.

However, when you become aware of what drives you, you are able to proactively make better decisions for yourself, your career, and your business.  This increases your confidence to achieve what it is that you want to achieve.

At my core, I am an achiever, maximizer, and a learner.  I’ve learned how I can use these qualities in life and in my career, by empowering and emboldening others to be their best selves, achieve big things, and always keep an open mind to growth and learning.  All these qualities are needed for high-level success, personal and professional.

A good place to start to learn who you are at the core is by taking the Clifton Strengthsfinder test.  You will have to purchase the book new to get the access code to take the test.  Trust me, it’s worth it.

 

2.  Decide what it is that you really want, and declare it.  When you make a commitment, and are confident in your commitment, the Universe (God, Creator, etc…) pulls all the resources you need to you to make it happen.  When everything seems to fall in place because of your initial belief, your belief grows even stronger.

 

3.  Take action.  Action breeds confidence; it’s also the best way to get feedback as to whether you’re going in the right direction or not.  Feedback is especially important for high achievers like you; it’s how you know you are doing what you are supposed to be doing.

 

Summary

 

In order to make a major life change, such as career advancement or business start-up, you got to build confidence.  You build confidence by knowing who you are; deciding what it is that you really want; and taking action.  Without enough confidence in yourself, it’s impossible to succeed.

 

How do you build confidence?  Leave your comments in the area below!

Stuck in an Unfulfilling Job? Overcome Your Fear of Abandonment

Did you know that fear of abandonment can stop you from leaving a unfulfilling job to start the business of your dreams?  If you are experiencing resistance to change, this fear may be the culprit behind your ambivalence.

 

So What Is Fear of Abandonment, and How is it Hindering Me?

Basically, it’s the fear of losing someone or something.  It’s also related to the fear of being rejected or being alone.  So even though you hate your job and you want to leave, because you have a fear of losing people and things, you won’t be so ready to let it leave.

Fear of abandonment is your way of staying connected to something that is familiar, in this case your unfulfilling job.  If you want to transition from total unhappiness to a fulfilling career much easier, then overcome this sabotaging fear.

 

For more information on fear of abandonment, click here.

 

How to Overcome Fear of Abandonment

 

1.  Build your sense of self.  Who are you and what is the impact you have in this world?  What special strengths do you have to offer?  What is your purpose?  Fear of abandonment is tied to feelings of “not good enough” or feelings of loneliness.  Building your self-worth can help you overcome these challenges.  To get started, check out this post.

 

2.  Surround yourself with like-minded people.  Connection is important when you strike out on your own.  Money is tied to people; the more people you meet, the more chances you have to meet paying customers.  Connections also help to build your sense of belonging and confidence to handle challenges that may come your way.  When you need support the most, you will have it.

 

3.  Deal with your insecurities.  When you increase your feelings of safety and security in the world, you increase your sense of self.  Dealing with childhood traumas and hurts are key when dealing with security issues.  If you have anger against towards your parents or others from your past, then do the following:

  • acknowledge your anger to someone you can trust
  • take the good from it; discover lessons to be learned
  • forgive that person and vow to show compassion towards them
  • then forgive yourself for the guilt, anger, shame, etc that you harbored for so long

 

Remembering that the very people who hurt you are not confident or feel worthy themselves.  They are in fact wounded children who sometimes don’t know any better.

 

4.  Get professional help.  Join co-dependents anonymous.  Hire a competent counselor.  Whatever you have to do to heal, do it.   Healing is critical to life success.  Hold on to past hurts, and you can be sure that you will never rise to the top.

 

Summary

 

If you want to leave a job that drains you, doesn’t feed you, or help you to grow, then make sure you don’t have a fear of abandonment.  If you cringe at the thought of losing someone or something, or are pre-occupied with those thoughts, then chances are you have that fear.  Take the steps to overcome this fear, and you will be on your way to success central!

 

Do you struggle with fear of abandonment?  Feel free to leave your comments below! 

Overeating: How your self-image plays a role in food choices

Body Image and Overeating Struggles: What’s at the root?

 

Did you know that your body image and self-image affects your lifestyle behavior choices and life happiness?  

 

The thoughts you carry about your body and yourself determines the attitudes towards as well as the type of food choices you make.

 

A good example of this is the all-too-common label many women give themselves: “I’m an overeater.  I can’t control myself.”

 

In reality, they unintentionally set themselves up for failure, which goes on to lower their body image and self-image even more!

 

What can you do to break the overeating cycle?

 

Here are a few steps to take if you want to break the overeater label you give yourself… without realizing it.

 

1.  If you are calling yourself an overeater, STOP!!!  Why?  Your thoughts, whatever they are, become truth.  When you label yourself an overeater, you eventually begin to accept the toxic label.  This label becomes your identity, and your identity is the core of you that you act out each day.

 

If you think of yourself as an overeater with low willpower, and no control over your weight and life, then you will create this very experience for yourself.  You become attracted to those foods that create a sense of low control and willpower (i.e., high fat foods); or you eat hurriedly and without enjoyment, which will cause you to overeat.  

 

This is why self-image and personal growth work is so essential.  Success in overcoming the overeating cycle begins with developing a higher self-image.  What positive qualities do you own, and how can you those each day?

 

What is good and wonderful about living in your body?  What amazing things can your body do?

 

Personal discovery is where I begin with my clients when they want to change their lives for the better.  And for a limited time,  You can apply for the complimentary Finally Body Confident Breakthrough Call here!

 

2.  When you label yourself an overeater, you give away your power to take charge of your weight and body.  Therefore, your body image and self-image suffers even more.  You are not an overeater, but you can definitely increase the chances of doing so by doing the following:

 

  • eating while stressed
  • eating in a rush
  • eating with distractions
  • eating without pleasure and enjoyment
  • eating the wrong quality of foods

 

You are not an overeater; you create the conditions to become an overeater with your self-image, body image, lifestyle habits, and happiness in life.

 

===>  If you want to overcome your overeating struggles, then do the opposite of the bullet points listed above!

 

Summary

 

Your body image and self-image determines the food you reach for, as well as attitudes you hold toward the foods you eat.  Whatever you label yourself, so shall it be…  What new stories, positive stories can you tell about yourself today?

 

Please feel free to leave comments below!