Body Image Power: Get in Touch With Your Core Genius

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“Body Image is Your Self-Image Externalized.”

 

When I was in high school, I constantly compared myself to other girls who were getting all the boys attention.  Here I am, muscular, flat-chest, and skinny, while all these other girls who I though were more feminine, curvy, and physically mature.  I always said to myself, “I will be happy when I finally develop a ‘woman’s body’ “.

Then here comes college.  I develop, and I finally start getting the attention of college men.  But, I still felt so empty inside, so used, so unhappy.  I used to be so lost and confused.  I’ve finally developed, and I still don’t have what I want- a boyfriend that loves me.

It took me a long time to realize that I never really learned to love myself or my body.  I never really got in touch with why I am wonderful and amazing.  I never really learned what attracts positive people and relationships into your life.  Until I began to develop a relationship with myself by learning all about self-acceptance.

If you read the previous post, you learned that self-acceptance is the big secret behind accepting your body.  And if you can’t accept your body, then you can’t accept yourself.  So, the first post taught you how to get in touch with your passions.  This time, you are about to learn how to get in touch with your core genuis!

 

What is your core genius?

What is the genius that is at your core?

It is your naturally way of thinking, feeling, and behaving.  These are the qualities you are born with, and when you use them, you are expressing who you truly are.  Self-expression increases feelings of enthusiasm, self-accepetance, and happiness.  You get in touch with your significance, especially when you use your core genius to make a difference in the world, in your life, or in someone else’s life.

When it comes to my core genius, I love to inspire people to persevere and achieve their dreams.  I love to inspire the desire to learn and create ways to help people learn.  I also have a desire to help others be successful and have a huge impact in their lives.  I have a desire to do big things.  I want to leave a legacy.

 

Where to start

One of my favorite resource to use when getting in touch with your core genius is Clifton Strengthsfinder, which is more career-oriented.  Another is VIA Institute, which is more character-oriented. 

Clifton Strengthsfinder requires an access code, which you can purchase here.

I suggest you take both because you will get a complete and total picture of who you truly are.  Sometimes, you may learn why you are dissatisfied with your career!

 

Please take advantage of these resources available to you and stay tuned for the next post!

 

Body Image Power: Get in Touch With Your Passions

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What are you letting your body image stop you from doing?  Stepping into leadership positions?  Speaking out in meetings?

One thing I’ve learned to do that have helped me improve my body image is getting in touch with my core power. 

Getting in touch with your core power is the ultimate method of self-acceptance there is.

In order to accept your body, you have to be able to accept yourself.  So what is core power?

 

Core Power Essentials

Your core power is your uniqueness; it’s who you truly are.  Your core power are the parts of you that make you signficant, valuable, and worthy.  These qualities are with you for life and never really change.  They are the reason why people are intrigued by you; these qualities are the reason you matter.

So, what makes up the core power that is you?

  1. What you love to do (see below)
  2. The unique ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving and what you are great at doing (talents, personality, and strengths)
  3. Your deepest values
  4. The environments where you are able to fully express yourself
  5. Legacy you want to leave
  6. Claiming your power story

 

Today, we will focus on the first point: what you love to do.

 

What do you love to do?

What lights my fire?  I love to motivate others to believe in themselves, persevere, and to succeed; I love to help people find and develop their “want power” versus their “should power”.  I love inspiring the desire to learn in others.  I love the idea of doing big things to change the social confidence of body image and empowerment.  I love encouraging self-acceptance and the development of positive self-concepts, which is the ultimate motivation behind all behavior.

I love to laugh and have fun, and make others feel better about life and themselves through humor.  I love to use my wisdom to help others overcome challenging situations and find confidence.  I love to travel; I am especially fond of beaches and mountainous areas.  I love to color and paint.  I love listening to love songs.  I love expressing my sexuality.  I love to love and be loved.  I love attention :)

What do you love to do?  What brings you passion and joy?  Feel free to leave comments below!

 

And stay tuned for the next post, “Use your strengths and talents to increase happiness, success, and confidence”.

 

Increase Self-Esteem By Claiming Your Personal Significance

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Have you gone through life feeling not good enough, not pretty enough, or not talented enough, or not smart enough?  Some of us, in one way or another, received regular feedback that these things were true about us.  But it’s not…

 

Now that you are a grown woman, it’s time to take back control of your emotional health.  How do you heal your self-esteem and increase feelings of worthiness?

 

By discovering and claiming what is significant about you!

 

How to Claim Your Personal Significance

 

For many of us, our primary motive behind our actions is significance, or the need to feel special and make a difference in the world.  We want to be seen as unique and get recognition for our gifts and talents.

 

This is understandable, considering the obstacles you faced growing up.  We crave affirmation, validation, praise, and authority.  And why not?  We deserve it!

 

So, in order to increase your personal significance (and thus your self-esteem), do the following:

 

1.  Identify your personal strengths.  What are you naturally good at doing?  When you use your strengths, your levels of confidence, competence, and success improves.  This goes to improve your feelings of self-worth because you are using the very core of your soul.  

 

You can take the Via Character Strengths Test to find out what it is that you are best at doing.  It’s free and very, very eye-opening.  Click here to take it.

 

My top strengths are perspective (wisdom), humor, love of learning, and gratitude.  I use my strengths to bring joy to people’s lives; by giving thanks when I can; to provide sound advice and counsel; and to overcome obstacles and grow as a human being.

 

2.  Learn how to use these strengths in your personal and professional life.  The Via Me Online Character Strengths Test gives you strategies and tips on how to use your strengths in daily life.

 

3.  Build a wall of accomplishments.  If you are a high achiever like me, you probably have lots of plaques, certificates, and trophies that you have put away in your closet, never to be seen again.  Achievements are what build your self-esteem!  

Pull those symbols of success back out and create yourself a success shrine.  Remind yourself that you are successful, and that you have what it takes to create more success in your life.

 

Summary

 

Increase your self-esteem by identifying your personal strengths, learning how to use those strengths each day, and building yourself a wall of accomplishments.  What ways have you used to increase your self-esteem?  Feel free to leave your comments below!

 

 

How to Find Things to Achieve When Your Job Doesn’t Provide That Outlet

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If you are a high achiever, you are always thirsty for accomplishment.  More than likely, you want to achieve big things and make a difference in the world.  Well, what if your job doesn’t give you the opportunity to achieve and grow?

After all, achievement is your life line.  Without it, you suffocate.

 

I was experiencing the same problem until I created a list of possible achievements for myself.  Achievement is nothing more that a positive outcome.  And when you spread achievement to other areas of your life, you tend to be more balanced and satisfied.  Here is my list…

  1. Relationships: reaching out more to my friends; telling my parents how I love and appreciate them more; making new friends and focusing on what we have in common versus what’s different about us
  2. Maintaining and building a relationship with God: Without Him I’m nothing.
  3. Loving and affirming myself each day
  4. Building a success identity
  5. Hearing someone say, “You really helped me today”, no matter what it was that I helped them with.
  6. Small successes in handling my finances
  7. Encouraging excellence and self-love among my family and friends

 

What are some ways you achieve things each day?  Leave comments below!