Have you gone through life feeling not good enough, not pretty enough, or not talented enough, or not smart enough? Some of us, in one way or another, received regular feedback that these things were true about us. But it’s not…
Now that you are a grown woman, it’s time to take back control of your emotional health. How do you heal your self-esteem and increase feelings of worthiness?
By discovering and claiming what is significant about you!
How to Claim Your Personal Significance
For many of us, our primary motive behind our actions is significance, or the need to feel special and make a difference in the world. We want to be seen as unique and get recognition for our gifts and talents.
This is understandable, considering the obstacles you faced growing up. We crave affirmation, validation, praise, and authority. And why not? We deserve it!
So, in order to increase your personal significance (and thus your self-esteem), do the following:
1. Identify your personal strengths. What are you naturally good at doing? When you use your strengths, your levels of confidence, competence, and success improves. This goes to improve your feelings of self-worth because you are using the very core of your soul.
You can take the Via Character Strengths Test to find out what it is that you are best at doing. It’s free and very, very eye-opening. Click here to take it.
My top strengths are perspective (wisdom), humor, love of learning, and gratitude. I use my strengths to bring joy to people’s lives; by giving thanks when I can; to provide sound advice and counsel; and to overcome obstacles and grow as a human being.
2. Learn how to use these strengths in your personal and professional life. The Via Me Online Character Strengths Test gives you strategies and tips on how to use your strengths in daily life.
3. Build a wall of accomplishments. If you are a high achiever like me, you probably have lots of plaques, certificates, and trophies that you have put away in your closet, never to be seen again. Achievements are what build your self-esteem!
Pull those symbols of success back out and create yourself a success shrine. Remind yourself that you are successful, and that you have what it takes to create more success in your life.
Increase your self-esteem by identifying your personal strengths, learning how to use those strengths each day, and building yourself a wall of accomplishments. What ways have you used to increase your self-esteem? Feel free to leave your comments below!